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How is everything at Hogwarts today?
You should probably know that whatever Justin and Hydra told Sirius (or didn't? I can't tell, I just know he wrote to them), sent him on a tear last night. So I think it's pretty much what we thought, Daphne. Draco and I could sort of hear him and Mr Lupin; I'm sure Mr Snape and Tonks probably heard bits of it, too, though we were in the library researching, so we were closer.
Anyway. I can't imagine they're both back to normal but maybe at least neither of them is melting a cauldron or anything.
Daphne, could you get anything out of Crouch, as to what exactly went wrong? (I'm not including Draco on this so you can talk about it and not have to worry about him just going on and on about what a slick git he is, and I won't tell him anything if you don't want me to.)
I was thinking about Hydra, though, and how she doesn't like to talk about things, because--well, I'm the same way. And I know for me, I just need to be left alone, and I know most people in the Order prefer to push until someone gets over the worst. But it doesn't always work that way. So I hope people are running interference for her, if that's what she needs.
You should probably know that whatever Justin and Hydra told Sirius (or didn't? I can't tell, I just know he wrote to them), sent him on a tear last night. So I think it's pretty much what we thought, Daphne. Draco and I could sort of hear him and Mr Lupin; I'm sure Mr Snape and Tonks probably heard bits of it, too, though we were in the library researching, so we were closer.
Anyway. I can't imagine they're both back to normal but maybe at least neither of them is melting a cauldron or anything.
Daphne, could you get anything out of Crouch, as to what exactly went wrong? (I'm not including Draco on this so you can talk about it and not have to worry about him just going on and on about what a slick git he is, and I won't tell him anything if you don't want me to.)
I was thinking about Hydra, though, and how she doesn't like to talk about things, because--well, I'm the same way. And I know for me, I just need to be left alone, and I know most people in the Order prefer to push until someone gets over the worst. But it doesn't always work that way. So I hope people are running interference for her, if that's what she needs.
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Date: 2015-02-26 03:38 am (UTC)I'm not saying a person needs to wallow in their trauma and allow it to define them, but I do think it's important - vital, in fact - for a person to acknowledge, at least to him or herself, things like "I didn't like that," or "that really hurt me." Or even "I'm really really angry that happened to me." Because if a person doesn't, then it's like saying their own feelings and reactions don't matter. And they do.
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Date: 2015-02-26 03:45 am (UTC)Anyway. I imagine it's pretty tense, isn't it, because Hydra doesn't get demonstrative about things, but clearly Justin couldn't keep himself under control yesterday. So I hope they're able to get back on the same page soon. Especially considering how that could affect them forever, you know? I mean, loads of couples never get over something like this.
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Date: 2015-02-26 04:01 am (UTC)Justin is very demonstrative compared to Hydra (but everyone is, compared to her). She must be more open with him than the rest of us, but I don't think she'll ever be demonstrative and he knows that about her by now, surely.
When she was what - eleven? - she opened up to someone who possessed her and made her try to murder a load of people - and one of them did die. That would certainly put you off spilling your guts, I think.
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Date: 2015-02-26 04:06 am (UTC)So, you think they're facing it together, then? I mean, they always do manage to find one another, in the end. And if you and Sally-Anne are right and they're bonded, well, they'd rather have to work through it, wouldn't they.
I can't even imagine getting married, or getting pregnant, right now. I mean, at our age. Can you?
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Date: 2015-02-26 04:24 am (UTC)I can't even imagine how they ended up married, both so young! Hydra's nearly two years younger than you and me and Justin, remember. I can only think that they needed something that felt secure and safe amidst all the chaos, and getting married seemed like a good answer. A port in the storm. Maybe they believe in that whole 'soul mate' thing, too. Most people do, even though if you ask me that's completely silly. If you look at any broken-up couple I bet a lot of them would say that they were sure they were soul-mates, at one point or another.
I used to think I would never want to marry, and I'm still not sure I would. Who even knows what things will be like in ten or twenty years? A lot depends on that, I think. Same with having children.
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Date: 2015-02-26 04:42 am (UTC)But that's the difference, isn't it, between relationships that work and the ones that don't. I mean, I think most people in failed relationships don't care for each other equally, anyway. Or if they do, they don't show it the same way.
Even Sirius and Mr Lupin, they obviously love each other but they don't go soppy over one another much, and sometimes it's Mr Lupin going soppy and sometimes it's Sirius, but hardly ever both of them together. And they love each other about as completely as I think it's possible to do.
And yes, I know what you mean about the way things are, now, but I didn't even mean it that way. I just meant--I'm not ready. Not nearly. Even if there were a perfect bloke for me, which I don't think there is because boys are all really rather thick, aren't they. Or they're too whingy or they want a girl to be something she's not, or they're too old or too young or they don't like girls at all. Not that he'd need to be perfect, I don't mean that, just--well, I suppose I have high standards. And more important things to do than worry about it!
So, no, I'm not even thinking about the current conditions, political or otherwise. I just mean, for myself. I used to think it's just what everyone does, but of course, there are loads of people who never find the right person.
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Date: 2015-02-26 04:52 am (UTC)With all respect, for not being ready you seem to be thinking about it quite a lot? I'm sure you're not ready for marriage or kids, but relationships do seem to be on your mind. Weren't you dating someone at Sherwood? What happened to him?
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Date: 2015-02-26 05:00 am (UTC)Re: Private Message to Daphne
Date: 2015-02-26 05:10 am (UTC)Because really, you can't do another person's thinking for them. You can't really know what's in their head, even if you've convinced yourself you've got it right. (Well, unless you're Hydra.)
And my imagination is quite poor, otherwise I'd be writing plays and songs and not just performing those that were written by others.
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