alt_hermione | Order Only: Private Message to Harry, Sally-Anne, Ron and Daphne

How is everything at Hogwarts today?

You should probably know that whatever Justin and Hydra told Sirius (or didn't? I can't tell, I just know he wrote to them), sent him on a tear last night. So I think it's pretty much what we thought, Daphne. Draco and I could sort of hear him and Mr Lupin; I'm sure Mr Snape and Tonks probably heard bits of it, too, though we were in the library researching, so we were closer.

Anyway. I can't imagine they're both back to normal but maybe at least neither of them is melting a cauldron or anything.

Daphne, could you get anything out of Crouch, as to what exactly went wrong? (I'm not including Draco on this so you can talk about it and not have to worry about him just going on and on about what a slick git he is, and I won't tell him anything if you don't want me to.)

I was thinking about Hydra, though, and how she doesn't like to talk about things, because--well, I'm the same way. And I know for me, I just need to be left alone, and I know most people in the Order prefer to push until someone gets over the worst. But it doesn't always work that way. So I hope people are running interference for her, if that's what she needs.

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It can be, though. Sometimes forgetting and moving on is all there is to do. That's part of working through what happens.

How does something force themselves to forget about something? I'd like to know that trick!

I'm not saying a person needs to wallow in their trauma and allow it to define them, but I do think it's important - vital, in fact - for a person to acknowledge, at least to him or herself, things like "I didn't like that," or "that really hurt me." Or even "I'm really really angry that happened to me." Because if a person doesn't, then it's like saying their own feelings and reactions don't matter. And they do.

It helps when there's so much to do that one doesn't have time for anything else.

Anyway. I imagine it's pretty tense, isn't it, because Hydra doesn't get demonstrative about things, but clearly Justin couldn't keep himself under control yesterday. So I hope they're able to get back on the same page soon. Especially considering how that could affect them forever, you know? I mean, loads of couples never get over something like this.

Yes, I think that's comparable to 'stuffing it down.'

Justin is very demonstrative compared to Hydra (but everyone is, compared to her). She must be more open with him than the rest of us, but I don't think she'll ever be demonstrative and he knows that about her by now, surely.

When she was what - eleven? - she opened up to someone who possessed her and made her try to murder a load of people - and one of them did die. That would certainly put you off spilling your guts, I think.

True. I was thinking more about the way she was raised, with Bellatrix for a mother. Sirius sometimes talks about things his mother did (and we used to hear her screeching all the time, so there's that) and I'd bet she wasn't half as horrid as Bellatrix. With someone like that, you'd learn to tamp down your emotions. Which is why she poured her heart into that awful diary, in the first place.

So, you think they're facing it together, then? I mean, they always do manage to find one another, in the end. And if you and Sally-Anne are right and they're bonded, well, they'd rather have to work through it, wouldn't they.

I can't even imagine getting married, or getting pregnant, right now. I mean, at our age. Can you?

I think they're probably in for a rough patch but I certainly hope they get through it.

I can't even imagine how they ended up married, both so young! Hydra's nearly two years younger than you and me and Justin, remember. I can only think that they needed something that felt secure and safe amidst all the chaos, and getting married seemed like a good answer. A port in the storm. Maybe they believe in that whole 'soul mate' thing, too. Most people do, even though if you ask me that's completely silly. If you look at any broken-up couple I bet a lot of them would say that they were sure they were soul-mates, at one point or another.

I used to think I would never want to marry, and I'm still not sure I would. Who even knows what things will be like in ten or twenty years? A lot depends on that, I think. Same with having children.

I don't know, I mean, I think he's always been attracted to her, right from the first. I don't think he's even ever looked at another girl, certainly not the way he looks at her. And I can imagine she'd be comforted by the thought of someone adoring her like that--for her, and not because she's a prodigy or a Legilimens or a prize for Harry or anything like that. Though, that doesn't mean she feels as starry-eyed about him as he does about her, does it. Of course, if they got married, I think she must at least have thought she loved him enough to risk her parents finding out.

But that's the difference, isn't it, between relationships that work and the ones that don't. I mean, I think most people in failed relationships don't care for each other equally, anyway. Or if they do, they don't show it the same way.

Even Sirius and Mr Lupin, they obviously love each other but they don't go soppy over one another much, and sometimes it's Mr Lupin going soppy and sometimes it's Sirius, but hardly ever both of them together. And they love each other about as completely as I think it's possible to do.

And yes, I know what you mean about the way things are, now, but I didn't even mean it that way. I just meant--I'm not ready. Not nearly. Even if there were a perfect bloke for me, which I don't think there is because boys are all really rather thick, aren't they. Or they're too whingy or they want a girl to be something she's not, or they're too old or too young or they don't like girls at all. Not that he'd need to be perfect, I don't mean that, just--well, I suppose I have high standards. And more important things to do than worry about it!

So, no, I'm not even thinking about the current conditions, political or otherwise. I just mean, for myself. I used to think it's just what everyone does, but of course, there are loads of people who never find the right person.

Mr Black and Mr Lupin may love each other 'completely' but near as I can tell, it took them ages to get there. Maybe Justin and Hydra will need ages, too.

With all respect, for not being ready you seem to be thinking about it quite a lot? I'm sure you're not ready for marriage or kids, but relationships do seem to be on your mind. Weren't you dating someone at Sherwood? What happened to him?

You don't think it's natural to think about relationships when they're forming and taking shape all around us? That's rather narrow of you. I thought you had better imagination--I mean, you're an actress, after all.

I acknowledge others' relationships, certainly, and I do notice a lot about people, I think. But I don't analyze those things too deeply if I can help it. Unless, I suppose, I believe it will help me to better understand the people involved.

Because really, you can't do another person's thinking for them. You can't really know what's in their head, even if you've convinced yourself you've got it right. (Well, unless you're Hydra.)

And my imagination is quite poor, otherwise I'd be writing plays and songs and not just performing those that were written by others.

Hm, well, perhaps that's the difference between you and me, then. I do enjoy working out puzzles and things, and people are certainly interesting puzzles.

Oh, yes, sometimes a person has that effect on me. Draco certainly did.

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